This year is all about self improvement. It’s about discovery and recovery. Recovering from the events of last year, good or bad, and discovering the new and exciting things that await in the coming months. But the only way we’ll be able to embrace everything that this fresh slate has to offer is if we remember that there are certain values and mantras that we need to live by and to remind ourselves of when we wake up every morning. No one is perfect and there will for sure be days when we want to take these and chuck them right out the window in frustration, but then we need to go outside, pick them up, and remember why we valued them in the first place.
- Be Patient. We’ve set our resolutions and we’re excited to see them become a reality. We’ve set our goal and plans for the things we’d like to happen to us. Successes in school, work, relationships, health and fitness, wealth or even something as simple as learning to smile more. But we can’t expect these things to happen all at once. There are 12 months to this new year, so we can’t expect things to happen in the first, second or even third month. It may seem disheartening when a few months down the line you still aren’t where you thought you’d be, physically, mentally or emotionally. Just be patient and stick to your plans, something amazing awaits you and when it finally comes you’ll realise that it was well worth the wait and effort.
- Be kind. If you’ve set something that you want to accomplish this year, remember that so has everyone else. Everyone is dealing with their own self improvement and everyone is just trying to do the best they can. So be kind to everyone, give them a smile, open a door or even leave a coin in the hat of the guy playing piano in the subway. Not only is it good for your karma but it passes on the positive energy and just might save someone from giving up altogether.
- Don’t be egotistic. If you’ve decided that you’re going to make a big change in your life, by all means, do you and make your life the best it can be. But the moment you start being condescending towards others for not making the same choices as you or for being on an opposite path, you’ve lost the very purpose of trying to be the better version of yourself because your ego has come to the forefront of your actions. An example which comes to mind is this. I’ve done a lot of research about the vegan diet that I’m embarking on and I dislike the fact that some (but only a very small percentage) of the people who claim to have been vegan for years, are so aggressive and self righteous towards people who don’t understand or follow their choices. This is only one example in a sea of so much disrespect and aggression. If you believe in something, there’s a way to explain yourself that shows that you don’t think you’re better than anyone else, but rather that explains your choices in a manner which respects and accepts everyone elses’. If we learn to accept that we are all different, then maybe, just maybe, we can make 2018 a happier and more positive place.
- Be positive. There’s always a silver lining. Always. Even when the most horrible thing has happened, it has happened for a reason. Of course you’re allowed to whine and moan about it for a while, heck I know I do. Cry about it if you must. But then pick yourself up and remember that the only way to move is forward. It’s okay to let go off the negative people who weigh you down. Life is about learning to let people go especially if they aren’t adding anything beneficial to your future or your personality. Exhale the negative energy and inhale the positivity.
- Be optimistic. I remember when I was in A levels, my friends used to tell me they sometimes got annoyed by how optimistic I was. About everything and about even the slightest things. But all I can say is that it keeps you sane. To hope and to believe that something good will follow and that something will happen to fix things or show you why they were messed up in the first place. I want to believe that we’re all deserving of something so beautiful and amazing which we haven’t even contemplated yet. The only way to keep that belief and to keep your hopes and dreams alive, is to be optimistic about what is to come.
- Be faithful. To yourself, to your goals and to your dreams. Don’t ever give up on your principles and your values just because other people may not understand them and may try to change them. It’s okay to make mistakes, and there will be plenty more to make but it’s about sitting down afterwards, reevaluating what went wrong, and setting yourself back on track.
- Don’t be afraid to learn and to adapt. There are so many things that I am learning about myself and things that will allow me to live and cope in this world more independently and successfully. It’s okay to make mistakes and learn from them on your own, but it’s also okay to expect to be able to ask for help from those who love you. This year is all about change, about growth and about adapting to things not always being the way we want them to be. It’s about going outside our comfort zone and trying new things in the hope of finding something in ourselves we didn’t know existed.
I wish I knew exactly how this year is going to go. I wish I could plan for every eventuality, the good, the bad and the ugly, but I can’t. None of us can. So the only way we can tell ourselves that we’re going to make this year even better than the last is if we remember that we are stronger and more powerful than we could possibly imagine and that there is a pot of gold waiting for us at the end of our rainbow. I’m sending you all my love and courage to take on this year with all you’ve got.
Sit back, grab some Oreos, and let’s see what life has to offer us next.