These past couple of days I’ve been feeling super moody and down in the dumps. I was feeling so upset for no reason at all… okay maybe there is a reason but it’s an inconsequential one that really shouldn’t be stressing me out because I have so many more important things to worry about with midsessionals coming up and two essays due. However, it got me thinking about how life can just decide to send us into an existential pit of sadness and loneliness then, all of a sudden, like a puppet master prompts its puppets, life just lifts us out of it again.
Now, I understand that maybe it’s got to do with it being that time of the month and it’s hormones and emotions and all that and it’s not a metaphysical entity pulling my strings (or maybe it is, who knows). But sometimes I can’t help but analyse all the little things that may trigger these emotions that send us into overdrive.
And then, I got this heightened awareness of how I (and we) treat or act towards other people in our daily interactions. I realised and appreciated the importance of thinking before we talk or act because we never know what someone is going through and what we could say, even with the best of intentions, that could trigger something in someone. The smallest comment or most insignificant inaction, could trigger an emotional reaction that even that person may not have seen coming. I’m not saying we have to censor ourselves all the time, because I do believe that we have to be able to be our truest selves and be able to say the silliest things that pop into our heads with those that we consider our closest friends. But I’ve realised that even in those situations, we have to be aware of the fact that we may think we know someone, but we may not truly know what’s going on in their heart. I realised the importance of trying to read the unspoken words, and trying to see the meanings behind the silences so that we can try and do our bit to help lift ourselves, or others, out of the pit, either by giving them someone to talk to, or simply not saying anything at all.
One of my absolute favourite mama bloggers, MissKyreeLoves, is a fervent promoter of the #bekindmovement, which I think is something so simple, but so underrated. I don’t think we realise the impact that a kind act, be it a simple smile to a passerby on the street or a kind word to a friend, can have on someones day. I smile to everyone I walk by on the street, literally everyone. Not because it’s something I force myself to do, it’s just a genuine reaction that I have. I think there’s so much behind a simple smile to a stranger. A friendly affirmation that ‘yes, I’m another human being, like you, going through this little game called life, and I acknowledge the struggles, but don’t worry we’re doing great. Have a fabulous day.’ So many words all in one facial expression, and it’s always so refreshing to see someone’s face light up when you smile at them and they weren’t expecting you to. Sadly, in today’s world, it’s become such a strange act to smile to a stranger. We always have so much on our minds, that we forget to smile and we forget to remember that we’re all on this crazy roller-coaster together. A kind smile makes not just the recipient, but also ourselves, that bit happier for the day. And I know for a fact that getting a smile back just brightens up the journey that I may be on.
There’s a quote that hangs in my dad’s office; and it’s one that always brings a tear to my eye when I read it because it’s so true and something that I always try to live by and I think we should all learn from:
I shall pass this way but once; any good that I can do or any kindness I can show to any human being; let me do it now. Let me not defer nor neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again.
~Etienne de Grellet
So remember, be kind, encourage others to be kind, and teach your children to be kind. And don’t do it to gain anything. Don’t expect people to smile back at you or to extend towards you the same kindness as you do them. More often than not your kindness will be rewarded eventually, somehow, but if it isn’t then you should be grateful in the fact that you contributed to the positive energy being emitted into our often too negative world. There’s no shame in putting your kindness out there in a world that has become so mechanical and almost void of personal human interaction. Let your minuscule act of kindness be the ripple effect that reminds us that we are not robots made to work day and night isolated from emotion, but that we are humans being made to thrive off one another, and to help each other through this game of life. Be Kind.
Sit back, grab some Oreos, and let’s see what life has to offer us next,